dowdy - (of a person or their clothes) unfashionable and without style in appearance (typically used of a woman)
When Helen reached the age of 100, she didn't care that people thought that she dressed in a dowdy manner, she contented herself thinking about the wonderful family she had raised.
reconcile - To bring two or more people or groups into a state of harmony or understanding after a disagreement or conflict.

After a long argument, they managed to reconcile their differences and rebuild their relationship, realizing how much they valued each other.